UGGGG.. Some People Just Don’t GET It
by Mamaoftwo on August 18th, 2008
filed under Ranting
Ya, I know, I have not posted in a LONG while… I always mean to then I forget and by the time I come back… I’ve forgotten what I wanted to say.
Anyway, I’m here to gripe today… on Facebook a childhood “friend” of my husbands had posted on his status that he was going for a job interview last week, so I messaged him to ask how it went…with genuine interest, knowing it has been a struggle for him since he was laid off.
I should preface this with the fact that I don’t know this childhood friend well, though he has always remained a ‘friend of the family’. Because he seems (to me) to have remained a friend of the family more than he has remained an actual friend to my husband through their adult life, my contact with him in the 10+ years hubby and I have been together has been limited.
When I asked how the job interview went, he responded saying it was “just a meet and greet because 300 people applied for the jobs”, and then asked if hubby or I were working yet.
“working yet?…yah bums!! lol” [QUOTE]
Ohhhhh, WRONG THING TO SAY!!!!!
So here it is… my response to him:
“Bums… ya… sure… be careful there ******… you’re starting to sound like someone I don’t like (referring to my MIL who acts the same way, whom he still has contact with).
Hubby is PERMANENTLY disabled. Regardless of what anyone might have told you, no, he won’t be working a conventional job again ever… it’s hard enough for him to do daily functional things like dress himself, feed himself, and have a shower… so ya, “working” is kinda out of the question. Regardless of what it looks like from the outside looking in. I live with him daily 365 a year.
Not that I need to justify myself to you or anyone, but… when he is capable, he goes out and does photography, and we manage to sell some of it to help.
And I am working, even if we are supplemented by Ontario Disability Pension. I do web development, print jobs, photoshop orders, photography, and sell note cards locally, as well as take in cake decorating orders for people… all while I do the house care, raise the kids, and do personal care facilitation for hubby and his health issues ( who without me BTW would likely be in a care home for people with physical limitations) – not to mention I got a grant to start a home business, which we are working the details of to get off the ground.
No, really: Yep… we just sit around all day long, living the high life eating pate and drinking fine wine all paid for off of your hard earned money that the government takes in taxes to pay for our lazy asses… it’s great!!!
Maybe YOU should try living with a physically limiting disability for 7 years knowing you’ll likely be that way for the rest of your life… or being the spouse of a person with a disability and juggling the stress we live with daily knowing that someday your spouse could be in a wheelchair way before they ever should have been.
Not trying to rip into you… this is the reality of our situation… it just bothers me when people don’t choose to actually see for a moment.
“Walk a mile” and all that… ya, we all have our issues in life, and stresses and things to deal with, so I’m not whining, or minimizing anyone else’s lot in life… it’s just all different. And it is amazing at how that kind of stuff makes you “find out who your friends are.” which I’m sure you should be well aware of given the things in your life you’ve had to deal with and endure.
I think we do pretty well to make happiness in our lives regardless of what we have to deal with daily and that we find ways to enjoy life within our limitations where others would cave and let a situation like ours consume them with bitterness and grief.
Good luck on the job hunt.
